I know some people may think that once the bedroom door shuts, that modesty is off the table. Why should it be? Respect for ourselves and for our husbands does not end in the bedroom. In fact, that is the one place we should value ourselves the most. What you wear to sleep should be something that you and your husband are comfortable with.
Modesty in the bedroom does not have to mean a nightgown buttoned at the neck and wrists, especially not in this heat! I remember my grandmother used to wear always wear a zippered nightgown that looked quite uncomfortable. We shouldn’t have to sacrifice comfort in what we wear to sleep; but certainly we can find balance between modesty and allure. Here are some things to remember:
- Do you and your husband feel uncomfortable about certain pieces of lingerie? That’s okay; lingerie may not be right for your marriage.
- Have you ever worn something that made you feel ashamed? You should feel no shame in your bedroom; talk to your husband about compromising.
- Sooner or later, a child will need your attention in the middle of the night. Have something close by to throw on if you feel the need.
There are many options that you can wear in the bedroom that are comfortable and feminine. I have seen many beautiful, frilly nightgowns that would be appropriate and aren’t long and confining. Somehow a gothic novel comes to mind when wearing one! Pajamas can be nice as well; flannel is great for the winter and there are a number of cooler fabrics for the warmer months. I’ve actually seen some really cute short sets that are flirtatious, yet modest.
Ultimately, it is up to you and what you feel comfortable wearing. I’m still working on what that is for me. I was wondering what other people thought about the subject. If a bedroom is private, should modesty really be an issue when it’s just you and your husband? That’s something to think about.
How do you feel about modesty in the bedroom?