Parenting is the hardest job that I have ever done. Those parents who make it look easy are not being entirely truthful. Can you identify with a child who doesn’t sleep? Or perhaps one that thinks he’s a train 24/7? I’ve browsed parenting books; none seemed really useful and someone were outright scary. Then I stumbled across How We Love Our Kids: The Five Love Styles of Parenting by Milan and Kay Yerkovich.
How We Love Our Kids does not just teach us how to parent; it tells about how we relate to our children. There are five love styles that each parent has; the authors help us identify our own and adjust them to change the dynamics between us and our children. They also mention that children have their own love languages; we need to speak them in order to reach them.
This is by far the best parenting book I have come across. It helps me get down on my children’s level and figure out what is at the root of some of their behavior. I have found was to redirect their attitudes by speaking to them, not at them. In fact, when I involved them personally in changing their conduct. We have conversations instead of arguments.
If you have read my reviews of other self-help books, you should know that I love when a book includes success stories. This book was no different; the stories included the dynamics between parent and child and how that dynamic changed when behavior or relationships improved. I feel better knowing that there are other parents out there who struggle.
Please, if you are having difficulties with your children or are struggling emotionally with them, read How We Love Our Kids: The Five Love Styles of Parenting. You can read the first chapter of the book here.
Disclosure: I received this book for free from WaterBrook Multnomah Publishing Group for this review.